
Book Review 160
Name of the Book: All The Young Men
Author: Ruth Coker Burks and Kevin Carr O’Leary
Publisher: Grove Press (an imprint of Grove Atlantic)
Year: 2020
Category: Non-Fiction (Memoir)
Blurb:
All The Young Men, a gripping and triumphant tale of human compassion, is the true story of Ruth Coker Burks, a young single mother in Hot Springs, Arkansas, who finds herself driven to the forefront of the AIDS crisis, and becoming a pivotal activist in America’s fight against AIDS.
In 1986, 26-year-old Ruth visits a friend at the hospital when she notices that the door to one of the hospital rooms is painted red. She witnesses nurses drawing straws to see who would tend to the patient inside, all of them reluctant to enter the room. Out of impulse, Ruth herself enters the quarantined space and immediately begins to care for the young man who cries for his mother in the last moments of his life. Before she can even process what she’s done, word spreads in the community that Ruth is the only person willing to help these young men afflicted by AIDS, and is called upon to nurse them. As she forges deep friendships with the men she helps, she works tirelessly to find them housing and jobs, even searching for funeral homes willing to take their bodies – often in the middle of the night. She cooks meals for tens of people out of discarded food found in the dumpsters behind supermarkets, stores rare medications for her most urgent patients, teaches sex-ed to drag queens after hours at secret bars, and becomes a beacon of hope to an otherwise spurned group of ailing gay men on the fringes of a deeply conservative state.
Throughout the years, Ruth defies local pastors and nurses to help the men she cares for: Paul and Billy, Angel, Chip, Todd and Luke. Emboldened by the weight of their collective pain, she fervently advocates for their safety and visibility, ultimately advising Governor Bill Clinton on the national HIV-AIDS crisis.
This deeply moving and elegiac memoir honors the extraordinary life of Ruth Coker Burks and the beloved men who fought valiantly for their lives with AIDS during a most hostile and misinformed time in America.
Review:
This book is the memoir of Ruth Coker Burks, a woman who stumbled upon an HIV affected patient who changed her life in unexpected ways. Since HIV/AIDS disproportionately affected the LGBTQIA+ community more, the disease itself became stigmatized and this prevented many of those affected from getting the right treatment. At a time, when the LGBTQ community was being ostracized and HIV/AIDS patients were being disowned by even family members, Ruth had to go against society to support them. She and her daughter were attacked by neighbours, not allowed into the church and alienated by friends and family. However, these did not deter Ruth from the path of love and compassion. She did the unthinkable, which most people even now after all the scientific development and research might not be willing to do. She treated everyone like her own family and they reciprocated it in their way. She worked with many including teenage prostitutes, drag queens and so many others who still face discrimination from both the law and other people. She actively tried to engage the government and local ruling bodies to bring attention to this grave problem. The memoir is written with honesty and no saviour complex, but with pure love and regard for every person whom she met in her life. I read few reviews where people did not like the book as Ruth includes her religious beliefs in the book. I did not think that these were not overdone at any point. Since she is a religious person, it is only natural to include that important aspect of her life in her memoir. Her work is of immense importance and it paved the way for a different and informed way of treatment and outlook towards HIV/AIDS. This is an extremely important book that everyone must read to understand the social context of the disease and to develop empathy towards those suffering from the disease. It is also an important historical document that reflects on the treatment of the LGBTQ community and the disease that affected them severely.
Rating: 5/5
Amazon Link:









